Stressors abound in our modern world. Children, parents, jobs, hobbies, money, health all contribute to our wellbeing and to our stress. In case of anything going wrong, be it a car accident, an angry altercation with the neighbor, or a robbery, most of us react with emotions. The severity and kind will of course vary. The real beginning of healing is when we accept what has happened. Acceptance also comes with a realization that you may have contributed to what happened. This is the hardest step because most of us love playing the blame game. Two things help us to move on: one is deep unconditional love for the person who is involved in this situation with you, the situation itself and you, and the second is forgiveness. As you start sending the signals of unconditional love and forgiveness, healing occurs.
How far you have progressed can be demonstrated easily. If for example, you fought with your relatives, how do you feel the next time you meet them? Does your body give signals like a faster heartbeat or a silent rage? Do you feel a sarcastic word welling up inside you? If all you felt was light, you have healed, if not you have not completely forgiven yourself or the others. Examine different aspects of the same situation and keep practicing. Slowly, expand this practice to all events and people from this and other lifetimes. As you heal you will realize that you create everything and you can end it too, much like the ending and the beginning of the cosmos. This may take years or lifetimes.
Physically, few people are satisfied with their outward appearance and want to be thinner or have better toned bodies. Those with straight hair want perms, those with perms want straight hair, and so on. Why not change this to a perspective of acceptance? For example, say, “I have a healthy body and my organs work in perfect balance with each other.” Better still, create your own affirmation for your divine physical self.
Personality wise, some are loud mouths, some shy, some friendly, some egoistic etc. Some of us again wish that we were the opposite, for example introverts will say, “I wish I could easily make small talk”. Sometimes people may not agree with others’ perception of who they are. “I am not egotistic; I am not snobbish.” There is a subtle dissatisfaction running through all these messages.
The dissatisfaction people express regarding the status of their finances and relationship are even higher. We want to be richer, we want partners who are more supportive, bosses who don’t act like bosses, if we live in country X we always think of country Y and so on.
Why are all the above relevant? Because they all deal with the fundamental truth of accepting yourself. Accepting yourself as you are, in your current avatar, is the first step towards change. Accepting your emotions and their effect on any relationship in your life is perhaps second. Accepting your role in creating the circumstances of your life, be it financial or health is the third. Once we accept, we can move to the next step of healing, of trying to change what we don’t want in our lives.
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